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<html lang="en">
<head>
<meta charset="utf-8">
<title>Emi's Homepage - Gender</title>
<link rel="stylesheet" href="../style.css"/>
</head>
<body>
<div id="wrap">
<header><h1>What is gender?</h1></header>
<main>
<section>
<aside>
<h3>&nbsp; Warning &nbsp;</h3>
<p>
This is an article I wrote a while ago as a once off thing for
personal reasons. I never really meant for it to be read publicly,
and I'm really just using it as a sort of filler page. It's pretty
unedited, and might be rambly and nonsensical. Read at your own risk.
</p>
<p>
If you don't want to keep reading, head
<a href="../">back to the homepage</a>
</p>
</aside>
<p>
This is the best effort of a trans enby to explain their experience
with gender to people who might not be familiar with nonbinary
identities at all.
</p>
<p>
It's also an exploratory piece, an effort to make sense of the vague
and abstract concept that is gender, and maybe understand it a little
better by writing about it.
</p>
<p>
And maybe it's also a philosophical piece, and an attempt to make
sense of the complicated world we live in, not just physically, but
mentally.
</p>
<p>
I hope that this will be useful to people who want to learn not just
how they can respect nonbinary identities, but who want to understand
them. I also hope that it will still be an interesting exploration of
gender for those who already are familiar with it, and maybe are
nonbinary.
</p>
<p>
This will discuss gender on a introspective level, and a lot of the
things attached to it, like specific biology, as well as gender roles
and misgendering. It's written to an audience of people who are not
nonbinary, and assumes that the reader is either a man or a woman and
sometimes addresses them as such.
</p>
<p>
</section>
<section>
<h2>Step 1: Gender is not physical.</h2>
<p>
A lot of people think that gender is about something physical. Most
often, they think it's about what's between a person's legs. This is
definitely part of it, but it's certainly far from the whole thing.
Think about it: If you need to refer to someone you've never met, you
probably just throw a glance their way and say, "do you see that woman
over there", without needing to go up to her and ask what's between
her legs. Similarly, it's not just about what you wear or how you
act. A boy can wear a skirt and act feminine, but that doesn't make
him not a boy.
</p>
<p>
There's something harder to pin down, and very personal about gender.
Calling someone a gender that they aren't is often seen as an insult
("what are you, a woman?!") in a way that isn't true about saying
someone has a hair color that they don't, or is a height that they
aren't. This would suggest that it's a very important part of
people's identity. But we've also worked out that it's not a
descriptor of anything physical. So what is it?
</p>
<p>
I'm not going to be able to give a perfect answer, because this is
something that philosophers still talk about today, and will for a
very long time to come. But to give a working definition, gender is a
feeling about how you relate to specific, very fuzzy categories of
people.
</p>
</section>
<section>
<h2>Step 2: Gender isn't black and white.</h2>
<p>
Most people in most societies are introduced to two genders at birth:
boy and girl, man and woman, male and female. A lot of us feel
comfortable with one of these labels. Often, our bodies line up with
the stereotypical bodies for that group, and that's what everyone
tells us we are. As we come to identify with them, they also mold our
behavior. Boys might pick up on boy-ish behavior, because that's how
they see themselves portrayed and that's how many of their peers act.
Same goes for girls. And so it was that most people in the world end
up feeling pretty content either as a boy, or a girl.
</p>
<p>
However, it's important to remember that nothing outside of math is
absolute, and nowhere is this more true than ambiguously defined
social structures. There's a million exceptions to this perfect
story, from people whose bodies don't perfectly line up with one of
the stereotypes, to people who accept the label but reject all the
"acceptable" norms for that group. Today we're just going to focus on
the people who were told that they were one thing when they were
young, but grew up to find that that's not what worked best for them.
Oftentimes, these people call themselves trans, or transgender.
We're going to zoom in even further though, to all the people who not
only found themselves unhappy with the label they were given when they
were young, but also felt that neither of these two labels fit their
experience all of the time. These people typically call themselves
nonbinary.
</p>
<p>
What does that mean? How does that work? Well, because gender is so
personal, it's a little bit different for every person. There's some
people who just don't feel a connection to either of the two groups
(agender). Some people feel like they match well with one group some
of the times, and but match differently at another (genderfluid).
Others might feel a connection to both (bigender). Others still might
feel like a whole 'nother thing altogether (xenogenders). The list
goes on and on.
</p>
</section>
<section>
<h2>Step 3: Gender can't be measured.</h2>
<p>
It's important to remember that there's not a certain number of
genders, or even a spectrum of genders. Gender isn't something that
fits nicely into mathematical models. It's jagged and chaotic. It's
not a metric or a measurement, it's a story about something so
personal it could never be expressed completely through language. We
come up with words and labels that can describe bits and pieces of our
gender, but we could never completely express it.
</p>
<p>
This is even true for you, and for everyone who only identifies with
the gender people told them they were when they were born. Ask
yourself, "how does it feel to be a man/woman?", "how do I know that's
what I am", and "what does it mean to be a man/woman to me?".
</p>
<p>
I'll give you a second.
</p>
<p>
No one is going to have the same answers to these questions, and it's
likely that, as you were trying to come up with an answer, you found a
feeling that you couldn't quite explain. You know that this is what
you are, but not because of anything about your body, or because of
how you act, but just, a feeling that it's right. That's your gender.
You could never put it in words, you could never compare it to someone
else's, you probably couldn't even say what it means, but that's okay.
You don't need to do any of those things, only know that it's yours,
and respect that others' will be different.
</p>
</section>
<section>
<h2>Step 4: Gender isn't something you have the answer to.</h2>
<p>
A lot of our first instincts with this is to try to come up with some
model or some other explanation that neatly wraps up gender into a
tidy package. You might even have one right now. Human brains really
don't like things that are as open and ambiguous as gender is.
</p>
<p>
But I'd like to ask you to take whatever model of gender you have and
really test it. How does it handle people whose bodies don't fit the
norm? How does it handle people who don't act like the gender you say
they are? How does it handle people who might medically change
themselves, either by hormones, or surgery, to feel more like a
different gender? Can it explain why people who, by all observable
measures appear to be one gender, nevertheless feel so much like
another gender that they go through complicated, difficult, scary, and
sometimes dangerous means to better express themselves? Does it
explain why we associate certain non-biological things with certain
genders? Does it explain why we care so deeply about gender that
almost everything in our lives are touched by it?
</p>
<p>
You get the idea. Don't get me wrong, I don't claim to have the
answer either. I've done a lot of talking in this document, and
there's still a million reasons why what I've discussed is a "good
enough" explanation at best. If you really want to chat about it
though, please reach out to me, I'm more than happy to talk about
gender any day.
</p>
</section>
<section>
<h2>Step 5: People are something you can respect.</h2>
<p>
I'd be elated if everyone who read this was convinced of the validity
of nonbinary identities, but a lot of people will just be confused,
and some more might even disagree completely. That's okay, and I
encourage you to find other resource people have made to help you
understand better. One person's perspective will never be enough to
gain a complete understanding. In fact, nothing will.
</p>
<p>
But, if I've failed to explain to you why nonbinary identities exist,
I'd like to at least ask this of you: Respect when people say they
are nonbinary.
</p>
<p>
If not because you believe them, then because you want to be nice. If
you go up to someone you know is nonbinary, and you actively reject
their gender, use the wrong name and pronouns, and tell them they
don't exist, I promise you this will hurt them at worst, and drive
them away from you at best. It won't "make them less confused", or
"remind them what they really are". But if you respect their name,
you ask for their pronouns and try your best to use them, you might
just make their day.
</p>
<p>
This isn't an effort to take away your free speech. Nothing will stop
you from misgendering nonbinary people. But it is an effort to
encourage you not to be rude, and an effort to keep the people you
care about in your life.
</p>
</section>
<section>
<h2>Addendum: What can you do to support nonbinary people?</h2>
<p>
In brief, here's what you can do:
</p>
<ul>
<li>
Use the name that people give you, and don't ask for their
previous name
</li>
<li>
Ask for people's pronouns, even when you don't think you're
talking to someone whose nonbinary
</li>
<li>
Try to use people's pronouns when they give them to you, although
it's okay if you genuinely slip up.
</li>
<li>
Watch for gendered language that you use, and try to use language
that the person prefers. It's okay to check what's best with them
if you're not sure.
</li>
<li>
If someone asks you to make a small change to how you treat them,
try to humor it, even if it doesn't make sense to you. We all
experience gender differently, and that's undoubtedly true for the
two of you.
</li>
</ul>
</section>
<section>
<h2>Addendem: What are pronouns, and how do I use them?</h2>
<p>
Pronouns are short words we use in place of other words. This is
anything like, "it's", or "their", or "me", or "you". A lot of the
time when people say pronouns, though, they're referring to
third-person pronouns for people, like "he", "she", or "him". A lot
of these carry heavy gendered connotations, so some people rather that
certain pronouns are used for them.
</p>
<p>
We often give pronouns two or three forms at a time, like
"he/him/his". If you're confused as to how to use a certain pronoun,
try starting with he/him/his, and then swapping it out for the pronoun
in the set that the person prefers.
</p>
<p>
For example, if someone asks for "they/them/theirs" pronouns, start
with a pronoun set you understand, then find out what the pronouns
correspond to. Where you might normally use him, use them, because
him in he/him/his corresponds to them in they/them/theirs. This is
only a crutch to get you started though, so try to become familiar
with the words in context.
</p>
<p>
People might also ask for pronoun sets you've never heard of, or have
never seen used for a singular human. A lot of the time, people do
this because they feel it better expresses their gender. This might
not make sense to you, but that's okay. Gender is uniquely
individual. Try your best to use the pronouns that they give you. If
you have difficulty, and you want to help make them feel more
comfortable, you can try practicing their pronouns by using their name
and pronouns together in your head. You can also get help with this
from websites like pronouns.is, which lists many different pronouns
that people use.
</p>
<p>
Most importantly, as long as you're trying your best and you respect
their gender, people will appreciate you, even if you slip up from
time to time. The fact that you've even read this far means that you
care, and people will appreciate that.
</p>
<span class="divider"></span>
<p>
Thank you for sticking with me through this. I appreciate it, and I
hope you feel a little more comfortable not just with the idea of
nonbinary genders, but with your own as well &lt;3
</p>
</section>
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<meta charset="utf-8">
<title>Emi's Homepage</title>
<link rel="stylesheet" href="style.css"/>
</head>
<body>
<div id="wrap">
<header>
<p>Welcome to</p>
<h1>Emi's Homepage</h1>
<p>a trans femby's tiny corner of the internet</p>
</header>
<main>
<section>
<h2>Who are you???</h2>
<p>
I'm Emi, a student at [REDACTED] who loves niche communities and the software
& circumstances that form them. I'm nonbinary, meaning that I'm not
exclusively male or female, and trans. If you need to refer to me in
third person, please use they/them pronouns, like, "They went to the
park with their dog"
</p>
<p>
I do a whole bunch of work scattered across whatever hobbies have
struck my interest, but common themes are:
</p>
<ul>
<li>Queer advocacy!</li>
<li>Non-standard chat platforms & social networks!</li>
<li>toki pona, and sometimes other neat language projects!</li>
</ul>
<p> I will also be very excited if you try to talk to me about </p>
<ul>
<li>Gender!</li>
<li>Neat open source protocols</li>
<li>Ethics & software</li>
<li>Sociology or Philosophy</li>
<li>Sustainability</li>
<li>Cartoons</li>
<li>Video essays</li>
<li>The intersection of any of the above</li>
</ul>
<p>
but will probably stop paying attention if you try to talk to me
about:
</p>
<ul>
<li>Your very specific linux setup</li>
<li>Why software A is better than software B</li>
<li>Something I don't understand but that you don't care to explain</li>
</ul>
</section>
<section>
<h2>Do you have any public projects?</h2>
<p>
Hell yeah! I maintain a couple of Discord bots that you can find on
my GitLab, as well as a smattering of other random one-off things. I
also have a GitHub, although I don't use it to host projects, just to
do pull requests.
</p>
<p><a href="https://gitlab.com/Alch_Emi"> My GitLab</a></p>
<p><a href="https://github.com/Alch-Emi"> My GitHub</a></p>
</section>
<section>
<h2>Something you made is difficult for me to use</h2>
<p>
Please please please tell me. I try to make everything I do
accessable, but I'll inevitably miss things. If you let me know how
something I made is inaccessible to you, I will make it my top
priority to make sure that it works for you. Same goes if anyone,
deliberately or not, uses my software to make you uncomfortable or
otherwise hurt you.
</p>
</section>
<section>
<h2>
Something you made is difficult for me to use because you used a license
I don't like
</h2>
<p>
Some of my code is licensed under the Hippocratic license or the CNPL
in an effort to prevent the use of my code to violate human rights.
Some people are not a fan of this license due to the fact that it
means that anyone intending to use it to violate human rights cannot.
</p>
<p>
If you would like permission to use my code to violate human rights,
or to let someone else use it to violate human rights, you cannot.
</p>
<p>
If you have a specific usecase that you think is justified, such as
wanting to license under a different ELOS license, and I am the sole
licensor of the project you want to use, then you are welcome to reach
out to me and I may grant you specifically rights to use my code under
a different license.
</p>
<p>
If you have other concerns about this license, please first consult
the
<a href="https://firstdonoharm.dev/">
Hippocratic License FAQ.
</a>
</p>
</section>
<section>
<h2>I really like security. Do you have a GPG key?</h2>
<p><a href=".well-known/openpgpkey/hu/xjgaxcou5ojpf3otjssi8k8mc6eswjib">
I mean like if you really want.
</a></p>
</section>
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