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What is gender?

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+ This is the best effort of a trans enby to explain their experience + with gender to people who might not be familiar with nonbinary + identities at all. +

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+ It's also an exploratory piece, an effort to make sense of the vague + and abstract concept that is gender, and maybe understand it a little + better by writing about it. +

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+ And maybe it's also a philosophical piece, and an attempt to make + sense of the complicated world we live in, not just physically, but + mentally. +

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+ I hope that this will be useful to people who want to learn not just + how they can respect nonbinary identities, but who want to understand + them. I also hope that it will still be an interesting exploration of + gender for those who already are familiar with it, and maybe are + nonbinary. +

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+ This will discuss gender on a introspective level, and a lot of the + things attached to it, like specific biology, as well as gender roles + and misgendering. It's written to an audience of people who are not + nonbinary, and assumes that the reader is either a man or a woman and + sometimes addresses them as such. +

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Step 1: Gender is not physical.

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+ A lot of people think that gender is about something physical. Most + often, they think it's about what's between a person's legs. This is + definitely part of it, but it's certainly far from the whole thing. + Think about it: If you need to refer to someone you've never met, you + probably just throw a glance their way and say, "do you see that woman + over there", without needing to go up to her and ask what's between + her legs. Similarly, it's not just about what you wear or how you + act. A boy can wear a skirt and act feminine, but that doesn't make + him not a boy. +

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+ There's something harder to pin down, and very personal about gender. + Calling someone a gender that they aren't is often seen as an insult + ("what are you, a woman?!") in a way that isn't true about saying + someone has a hair color that they don't, or is a height that they + aren't. This would suggest that it's a very important part of + people's identity. But we've also worked out that it's not a + descriptor of anything physical. So what is it? +

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+ I'm not going to be able to give a perfect answer, because this is + something that philosophers still talk about today, and will for a + very long time to come. But to give a working definition, gender is a + feeling about how you relate to specific, very fuzzy categories of + people. +

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Step 2: Gender isn't black and white.

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+ Most people in most societies are introduced to two genders at birth: + boy and girl, man and woman, male and female. A lot of us feel + comfortable with one of these labels. Often, our bodies line up with + the stereotypical bodies for that group, and that's what everyone + tells us we are. As we come to identify with them, they also mold our + behavior. Boys might pick up on boy-ish behavior, because that's how + they see themselves portrayed and that's how many of their peers act. + Same goes for girls. And so it was that most people in the world end + up feeling pretty content either as a boy, or a girl. +

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+ However, it's important to remember that nothing outside of math is + absolute, and nowhere is this more true than ambiguously defined + social structures. There's a million exceptions to this perfect + story, from people whose bodies don't perfectly line up with one of + the stereotypes, to people who accept the label but reject all the + "acceptable" norms for that group. Today we're just going to focus on + the people who were told that they were one thing when they were + young, but grew up to find that that's not what worked best for them. + Oftentimes, these people call themselves trans, or transgender. + We're going to zoom in even further though, to all the people who not + only found themselves unhappy with the label they were given when they + were young, but also felt that neither of these two labels fit their + experience all of the time. These people typically call themselves + nonbinary. +

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+ What does that mean? How does that work? Well, because gender is so + personal, it's a little bit different for every person. There's some + people who just don't feel a connection to either of the two groups + (agender). Some people feel like they match well with one group some + of the times, and but match differently at another (genderfluid). + Others might feel a connection to both (bigender). Others still might + feel like a whole 'nother thing altogether (xenogenders). The list + goes on and on. +

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Step 3: Gender can't be measured.

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+ It's important to remember that there's not a certain number of + genders, or even a spectrum of genders. Gender isn't something that + fits nicely into mathematical models. It's jagged and chaotic. It's + not a metric or a measurement, it's a story about something so + personal it could never be expressed completely through language. We + come up with words and labels that can describe bits and pieces of our + gender, but we could never completely express it. +

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+ This is even true for you, and for everyone who only identifies with + the gender people told them they were when they were born. Ask + yourself, "how does it feel to be a man/woman?", "how do I know that's + what I am", and "what does it mean to be a man/woman to me?". +

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+ I'll give you a second. +

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+ No one is going to have the same answers to these questions, and it's + likely that, as you were trying to come up with an answer, you found a + feeling that you couldn't quite explain. You know that this is what + you are, but not because of anything about your body, or because of + how you act, but just, a feeling that it's right. That's your gender. + You could never put it in words, you could never compare it to someone + else's, you probably couldn't even say what it means, but that's okay. + You don't need to do any of those things, only know that it's yours, + and respect that others' will be different. +

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Step 4: Gender isn't something you have the answer to.

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+ A lot of our first instincts with this is to try to come up with some + model or some other explanation that neatly wraps up gender into a + tidy package. You might even have one right now. Human brains really + don't like things that are as open and ambiguous as gender is. +

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+ But I'd like to ask you to take whatever model of gender you have and + really test it. How does it handle people whose bodies don't fit the + norm? How does it handle people who don't act like the gender you say + they are? How does it handle people who might medically change + themselves, either by hormones, or surgery, to feel more like a + different gender? Can it explain why people who, by all observable + measures appear to be one gender, nevertheless feel so much like + another gender that they go through complicated, difficult, scary, and + sometimes dangerous means to better express themselves? Does it + explain why we associate certain non-biological things with certain + genders? Does it explain why we care so deeply about gender that + almost everything in our lives are touched by it? +

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+ You get the idea. Don't get me wrong, I don't claim to have the + answer either. I've done a lot of talking in this document, and + there's still a million reasons why what I've discussed is a "good + enough" explanation at best. If you really want to chat about it + though, please reach out to me, I'm more than happy to talk about + gender any day. +

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Step 5: People are something you can respect.

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+ I'd be elated if everyone who read this was convinced of the validity + of nonbinary identities, but a lot of people will just be confused, + and some more might even disagree completely. That's okay, and I + encourage you to find other resource people have made to help you + understand better. One person's perspective will never be enough to + gain a complete understanding. In fact, nothing will. +

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+ But, if I've failed to explain to you why nonbinary identities exist, + I'd like to at least ask this of you: Respect when people say they + are nonbinary. +

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+ If not because you believe them, then because you want to be nice. If + you go up to someone you know is nonbinary, and you actively reject + their gender, use the wrong name and pronouns, and tell them they + don't exist, I promise you this will hurt them at worst, and drive + them away from you at best. It won't "make them less confused", or + "remind them what they really are". But if you respect their name, + you ask for their pronouns and try your best to use them, you might + just make their day. +

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+ This isn't an effort to take away your free speech. Nothing will stop + you from misgendering nonbinary people. But it is an effort to + encourage you not to be rude, and an effort to keep the people you + care about in your life. +

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Addendum: What can you do to support nonbinary people?

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+ In brief, here's what you can do: +

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  • + Use the name that people give you, and don't ask for their + previous name +
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  • + Ask for people's pronouns, even when you don't think you're + talking to someone whose nonbinary +
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  • + Try to use people's pronouns when they give them to you, although + it's okay if you genuinely slip up. +
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  • + Watch for gendered language that you use, and try to use language + that the person prefers. It's okay to check what's best with them + if you're not sure. +
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  • + If someone asks you to make a small change to how you treat them, + try to humor it, even if it doesn't make sense to you. We all + experience gender differently, and that's undoubtedly true for the + two of you. +
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Addendem: What are pronouns, and how do I use them?

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+ Pronouns are short words we use in place of other words. This is + anything like, "it's", or "their", or "me", or "you". A lot of the + time when people say pronouns, though, they're referring to + third-person pronouns for people, like "he", "she", or "him". A lot + of these carry heavy gendered connotations, so some people rather that + certain pronouns are used for them. +

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+ We often give pronouns two or three forms at a time, like + "he/him/his". If you're confused as to how to use a certain pronoun, + try starting with he/him/his, and then swapping it out for the pronoun + in the set that the person prefers. +

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+ For example, if someone asks for "they/them/theirs" pronouns, start + with a pronoun set you understand, then find out what the pronouns + correspond to. Where you might normally use him, use them, because + him in he/him/his corresponds to them in they/them/theirs. This is + only a crutch to get you started though, so try to become familiar + with the words in context. +

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+ People might also ask for pronoun sets you've never heard of, or have + never seen used for a singular human. A lot of the time, people do + this because they feel it better expresses their gender. This might + not make sense to you, but that's okay. Gender is uniquely + individual. Try your best to use the pronouns that they give you. If + you have difficulty, and you want to help make them feel more + comfortable, you can try practicing their pronouns by using their name + and pronouns together in your head. You can also get help with this + from websites like pronouns.is, which lists many different pronouns + that people use. +

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+ Most importantly, as long as you're trying your best and you respect + their gender, people will appreciate you, even if you slip up from + time to time. The fact that you've even read this far means that you + care, and people will appreciate that. +

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+ Thank you for sticking with me through this. I appreciate it, and I + hope you feel a little more comfortable not just with the idea of + nonbinary genders, but with your own as well <3 +

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Welcome to

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Emi's Homepage

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a trans femby's tiny corner of the internet

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Who are you???

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+ I'm Emi, a student at [REDACTED] who loves niche communities and the software + & circumstances that form them. I'm nonbinary, meaning that I'm not + exclusively male or female, and trans. If you need to refer to me in + third person, please use they/them pronouns, like, "They went to the + park with their dog" +

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+ I do a whole bunch of work scattered across whatever hobbies have + struck my interest, but common themes are: +

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  • Queer advocacy!
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  • Non-standard chat platforms & social networks!
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  • toki pona, and sometimes other neat language projects!
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I will also be very excited if you try to talk to me about

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  • Gender!
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  • Neat open source protocols
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  • Ethics & software
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  • Sociology or Philosophy
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  • Sustainability
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  • Cartoons
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  • Video essays
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  • The intersection of any of the above
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+ but will probably stop paying attention if you try to talk to me + about: +

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  • Your very specific linux setup
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  • Why software A is better than software B
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Do you have any public projects?

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+ Hell yeah! I maintain a couple of Discord bots that you can find on + my GitLab, as well as a smattering of other random one-off things. I + also have a GitHub, although I don't use it to host projects, just to + do pull requests. +

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My GitLab

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My GitHub

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Something you made is difficult for me to use

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+ Please please please tell me. I try to make everything I do + accessable, but I'll inevitably miss things. If you let me know how + something I made is inaccessible to you, I will make it my top + priority to make sure that it works for you. Same goes if anyone, + deliberately or not, uses my software to make you uncomfortable or + otherwise hurt you. +

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+ Something you made is difficult for me to use because you used a license + I don't like +

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+ Some of my code is licensed under the Hippocratic license or the CNPL + in an effort to prevent the use of my code to violate human rights. + Some people are not a fan of this license due to the fact that it + means that anyone intending to use it to violate human rights cannot. +

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+ If you would like permission to use my code to violate human rights, + or to let someone else use it to violate human rights, you cannot. +

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+ If you have a specific usecase that you think is justified, such as + wanting to license under a different ELOS license, and I am the sole + licensor of the project you want to use, then you are welcome to reach + out to me and I may grant you specifically rights to use my code under + a different license. +

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+ If you have other concerns about this license, please first consult + the + + Hippocratic License FAQ. + +

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I really like security. Do you have a GPG key?

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+ I mean like if you really want. +

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